It’s a curious thing, but sometimes, no matter how much work you’ve done on yourself in the past, there are times when you may forget every single self-help technique you ever knew and feel totally helpless. Are you familiar with that syndrome? Thought so! Well, it happens to me, too!! At such times, it’s easy to feel stuck, helpless and start thinking that things will never change. With so little space in your mind to think clearly, let alone make decisions, panic arises, spirits descend, and you start to feel overwhelmed, all of which makes trying to stay on an even keel an exhaustive and perilous balancing act.
I’ve just described the darkest of these situations, but there are various shades of grey around these areas which I’m sure I don’t have to describe. They fall into the general category of events called “challenges”.
One of the best things you can do to open up a stuck and frozen mind is to ask yourself some questions starting with two words : “WHAT IF….?”
Using these words is like letting sunshine into a darkened room, for they can provide a portal which allows you to gain access to your inner guidance and higher being. What if …? brings space to the cluttered mind, causes that tangle of pressures and emotions to ease a little and gives you the opportunity to begin to see that there is, after all, some light at the end of the tunnel.
“What if I could believe there was a solution to this? What if I could just OPEN UP to that possibility? What if I allowed myself to trust there’s a positive aspect to this situation? What if I could walk away from this problem and let it go? What if I could find the courage to say what I need to say/do what I need to do? What if I could accept how things are and find peace?” These are the kinds of “what if” questions to ask.
If you couple these questions with some EFT (or Energy Tapping as my kind of EFT must henceforth be called to avoid legal issues around copyright and trademark), you’re opening your mind up to infinite possibilities and that in itself starts to release some of the pressure.
You could also ask yourself : “When I think about this issue, where do I feel it in my body?” and then put your Reiki hands on that area and think of the Reiki energy softening and melting the problem and allowing it to gently flow away.
And if you haven’t yet learnt either Energy Tapping or Reiki yet, what if you allowed yourself to do so??
Remember that however bleak your situation might be, it’s how you THINK about it that matters. Whether you’ve been betrayed, given a raw deal, made a huge mistake – or whatever – if you’re only thinking about how bad things are, or how nothing will ever change, you’re digging yourself more deeply into the problem.
I think it was Einstein who said: “You can’t solve a problem from the same level of consciousness as it was created” – or words to that effect. It’s so true. Often, we make the mistake of trying to solve things in the same old way time after time even though we know that method hasn’t worked in the past. Ultimately, you have to think outside of the box and come at it from a completely different angle.
How do you do that? Try using the magic words: what if …..?
If you haven’t already heard, the buzz word in energy psychology and tapping these days is “neuroplasticity”. In simple terms it means scientists have discovered that we can re-wire our thinking if we choose to do so (and Energy Tapping is a wonderful way of doing this). What this means is that we can change beliefs, we can change direction, we can change limiting beliefs, develop optimism and become more positive in our thinking. We are creatures of energy (which is what fills us and fuels us) so we resonate with the universal energy which is all around us and whose laws of time and space are more flexible and malleable than we may think. By working with the energy of our thoughts, you can create transformation in your lives and change yourself and your world for the better.
So next time you find yourself bogged down with a seemingly unsurmountable situation, try thinking about the problem with a “what if …?” As you do this, you’re opening yourself up to what Deepak Chopra calls ‘the field of infinite possibilities’ and – you never know – you might even find yourself on the receiving end of a miracle!