This is the time of year when many of us feel the energy stirring in us to start afresh, make changes and formulate plans and ideas about the year ahead. If this is happening for you, then you are definitely in tune with Nature, because right now, spring is on its way with all its gifts of new growth and new life.
Most of us have things we’d like to change, either about ourselves or our lives or both, but the problem is often: “how do I do that?” Maybe you’ve been trying to release something, start something, or have a different attitude to something for some time, but you feel you’re not getting anywhere. So, what can you do to change yourself/your life and finally make a difference?
One of the big things I’ve learnt over the years is that a powerful key to transformation is to embrace how things are right now with acceptance and gratitude. Why? Because time and time again, I’ve seen proof of the fact that the Universe sends us challenges in order that we may grow and become more of who we really are.
In order to do this, first of all, you have to be open to the possibility that there is a positive aspect to whatever problem you’re facing. If you’re not used to thinking about things in that way, try posing the following questions to yourself: “What if there was a positive side to this situation? What if I chose to believe that? What if I could learn from this challenge?” Just saying it makes a difference- believe me!! It’s not difficult. You just need to remember to try it. Why not give it a go? You’re not going to lose anything……
The heart chakra is the pivotal point of transformation in our energy systems. Here we find the gateway which allows us to move from any dense stuckness or heaviness about things in your life towards a level where you can find inspiration, enthusiasm and a sense of one-ness and alignment. Developing acceptance and gratitude within yourself are the key to learning to live your life in a more heart-centred way rather than constantly being at the beck and call of all the demands, desires, complaints and resistance churned out by the monkey mind. By allowing yourself to accept the status quo (knowing it’s only temporary – remember, all things must pass!), and focusing on having appreciation and gratitude for the good things in our lives, we can transform our mood, lighten our burdens and become happier people.
However, many folks are resistant to the idea of acceptance (especially if we don’t like what’s happening!), believing that it’s akin to giving up or giving in and that accepting how things are will turn them into victims or doormats. As a result, you may tend to fight and struggle with the situation which actually tends to make things a whole lot worse!
But acceptance isn’t about letting yourself be a victim. It’s simply about acknowledging what is happening at this moment in time. It’s not about not doing anything or not wanting to change. It’s about allowing the current situation to be as it is for the moment and at the same time, opening up your mind to the idea that there are gifts in adversity.
When you start thinking along these lines, you’ll find it easier to develop an attitude of gratitude for all things – even the challenges of life. By embracing what is with gratitude you will come to recognize that everything that happens in your life comes at the right time, and that it can be ultimately for your benefit (if you see it as a gift) – even if it feels impossible to see why right now.
Gratitude and acceptance allow you to be less filled with fear, doubt, pain and resentment and more open to believing that everything is absolutely perfect in this moment. Developing these qualities also helps you to be more present and aware and open to the guidance which is always flowing into your being.
Practicing gratitude and acceptance will also lead you to being more heart-centred which means that you will gradually find you are able to understand yourself and others better, you’ll develop more compassion and find more happiness. (Research has shown that happy people are less prone to illness, cope better with challenges and are generally more attractive to others.) Ultimately, you’ll more than likely discover that the simple things in life are often the most valuable. We don’t need half the things the culture tells us we ought to have! The important things in life are love, friendship and understanding
2014 is still young and it’s important to look forward and beyond what may be happening now towards the possibility of better and brighter things coming into our lives in the coming months. So as we are poised to leave this first month of the New Year behind us, try looking at whatever happened for you in 2013 – good, bad or indifferent – with gratitude and acceptance and make a commitment to looking forward to the rest of the year with LOVE and appreciation. And just see what a difference you can make to your life!